— And Here’s Why That’s Beautiful, Not Selfish

Have you ever met someone and instantly felt drawn to their energy? Maybe it’s the way they carry themselves, how they speak life into others, or their unwavering authenticity. You admire them deeply—not in a superficial, “I want to be them” kind of way—but in a way that makes you think, “I would love to know this person. I’d love to be in their orbit.”

And then, maybe the doubt creeps in:
Am I being weird?
Is this selfish or clingy?
What if they think I’m just trying to “use” them or ride their coattails?

Let’s pause right there—because the truth is, it is completely okay, even beautiful, to desire friendships with people you admire. That desire doesn’t make you opportunistic. It makes you human.

Admiration Is Often the Root of Deep Connection

Real friendships aren’t built on convenience—they’re built on mutual respect, resonance, and alignment. If someone’s light shines so brightly that you’re drawn to it, that’s not exploitation. That’s appreciation. You’re recognizing something in them that speaks to something in you. That’s where real, soulful friendship begins.

You Deserve Meaningful, Uplifting Relationships

It’s healthy to want friendships that inspire you. You’re allowed to outgrow relationships that drain you or leave you stuck in patterns that no longer serve your growth. Wanting to surround yourself with people who challenge you to grow, heal, or think more deeply isn’t shallow—it’s intentional. It’s how we evolve.

Friendship Isn’t a Transaction

True connection isn’t about what you can get from someone—it’s about what you can share. If your desire to be close to someone comes from a genuine place of admiration and a willingness to contribute to their life, that’s not transactional. That’s relational. It’s the foundation of mutual support, love, and shared growth.

It’s Okay to Be Brave

Sometimes the people we admire most feel intimidating. We put them on a pedestal, telling ourselves they’d never want to be friends with someone like us. But here’s the secret: the most beautiful relationships are often formed when you take a small leap of vulnerability. Reach out. Say the kind thing. Start the conversation. You never know where it might lead.

So yes, it’s okay to want friendship with people you admire.
Not only is it okay—it’s human. It’s beautiful. And if approached with authenticity and openness, it can lead to some of the most enriching, soul-nourishing relationships you’ll ever experience.

You don’t have to shrink to stay in spaces that feel safe. You’re allowed to want more—from your friendships, and from yourself.